She grew, she flourished, and she germinated

Seeing how the energy of your mom is slowly decaying little by little…

Seeing how each of her energy was going down… feeling useless when you were three or four years old… you will feel that you cannot breathe… You would like to cry right in that moment but instead of crying you… you smile to your mom because the moment was already tragic so smiling was one of the ways she can still remembering you before her heart stops beating… You would like that she reminds you smiling than crying but before she closes her eyes… before saying “goodbye to her” you hug her with all your effort and love.  By hugging her…You will show to her that you will always love her no matter where she will be but you will still love her because the bond between a mother&kid is so strong that no one will be able to break it without their permission.

You would like to exchange your life for her but… you cannot…

The traumatic event will be recorded forever in your memories…

Sometimes, you will feel that half of your body is dead but you should be the one who should encounter the key to open the box and let that negative energy run away from you. You should be the one who stands up for yourself even though there is tough moment… you will need to believe that you can go through any struggle because you will need to believe that you are strong enough to go through anything, and nothing and no one will make you weak because in your weaknesses you will be the strongest… Just believe that you can go through the darkest tunnel. In the end, … there will be a beautiful rainbow waiting for you…

because everything is possible.

According to Audrey Hepburn, Nothing is impossible. The world itself says I’m possible

You deserve:

to be happy.

to smile again…

to be loved one more time…

be you one more time…

BECAUSE

you are beautiful emotionally and physically!!

When there was no hospital around you… when there were not doctors to revive your mother, and the baby your mother was carrying out with her dies too… you will need to realize… that… sometimes, born in a poor country will make you realize that… you cannot always control or stop the time no matter how hard you try because no one is capable to stop the time nor control it. Everything happens once because you live the moment once so as someone told me once… Make the most of your moment so make it possible. Sometimes, some people last forever but not always they do…. Unless you make the impossible making it possible… if you believe it… use your wings to fly! Fly! Fly and keep flying

Sometimes,

Life will not give you any explanation but you should be the one who connects the dots… you will realize that

Sometimes,

You will need to realize that no matter how many letters you write to her… she will never reply you back because she is resting in peace…

Sometimes,

When you try to push the wall and you cry as many times as you can… you will realize… you cannot bring her back because you don’t have powers…

Sometimes,

When you feel that you don’t want to keep eating… but you will need to still keep in mind that you should keep eating because you either eat and survive or you die for not eating and you die for sadness…

Sometimes,

You would like that she hugs you one more time but she will not hug you because she cannot see you, she cannot talk to you, she cannot say I love you to you or I am proud of you… or the woman you have decided to become.

At the end…

instead of saying sometimes, you will realize that she is still with you because people who you love…Only they die if you consider them dead but if you still remembering them, and loving them… they will stay present in your life so keep remembering and loving them if they matter to you.

If you lost your….

Your Mother

Your Brother

Your Father

Your Grandpa

Your sister

Your aunt

Your uncle

Your cousin

Your Grandma

Your Boyfriend

Your girlfriend

Your husband

Your wife

Your daughter

Your son

Your nephew

Your Niece

Your Brother-in-Law

Your Son-in-Law

Your daughter-in- Law

Your best friend

Your…

OR

The whole family because there was a war in your country…

Keep remembering them if you care about them. Keep them in your memories because if you want that they last forever… they will last forever in your heart.

Keep going! Keep walking! You can make it! 🙂

Shake the Earth like an Earthquake

Stand tall like Bury Khalifa which the tallest tower in the world.

Fly faster like a Peregrine Falcon.

Be loyal and caring like an Elephant.

Fight ( mentally ) like you.

You are stronger than you believe so keep trusting in yourself because you are the person who will love you the most… and never forget to keep drawing a smile on your face because…. Keep in mind this:

YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. THEREFORE, TRY TO BE HAPPY!

also

Keep these quotes in mind:

Quote 1: you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” __ Bob Marley

Quote 2: “Strength isn’t about how much you can handle before you break. It’s about how much you can handle after you break.”__Unknown author

Quote 3: “Beautiful has nothing to do with looks. It’s how you are as a person and how you make others feel about themselves.”__ TR

Quote 4: “When you lose someone you love, you gain an angel you know.” __Unknown author

Quote 5: “Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.” __ Lou Hoitz

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Self-reminders

It doesn’t matter the numbers of obstacles you will find in your road. There are two main facts you should take into consideration;

Fact 1: Do self-talk: You could say “I can do this because I am capable of achieving or overcoming any issue.”

OR

Fact 2: Retain your happiness with you. You are the one who should be able to draw a smile on your face because the person who will understand you and love you the most is you 🙂

Quote: “When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.”__ Unknown author

How to cope with the death of your mother/father or both?

Hey angel,

I hope you are doing great! Today, I am going to post a special post for those who are struggling with this issue. If you know someone who went or is going through this topic. Please, share it with them. Maybe, these strategies help them 😉

It might be hard to speak about this topic. It is hard to share this topic with my friends. Well… take as long as you feel like. There is no rush. Take your time to recognize the pain, accepted it, share with those who you trust. Then, try to find diversity of solutions to cope with this issue. It is not easy but it is not impossible to make it make possible. Everything in life is possible if you believe in it.  “Everything is possible even the impossible.”__ Mary Poppins

It can be for many different reasons you might lose your mother/father or both of them. If they loved you in a certain moment in life… Then, they will still love you. “When you look into your mother’s eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth.” __ Mitch Albom

I came up with a different of strategies I used when I lost one of the most beautiful humans begin on this Earth, my birth mum which later it made a huge impact in my life.

  • Try to be positive even though you went or you are going through a rough time. Being positive always helps to walk forward while being negative does not bring you anywhere. Try to keep this in mind:  “In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision.” _ Dalai Lama
  • Never avoid the pain your going through nor keep it for yourself. It is always good to recognize it and try not to be angry with yourself.  “It is okay not to be okay.”
  • Share it if you have enough trust with that person. It can be a teacher too. A way you could say it… I am not going through a good time. I need somebody with who I can talk to. Can I talk to you?
  • Never feel ashamed of who you are or you are going through. “Be proud of who you are, and not ashamed of how someone else sees you.”
  • There will be a time you just want to stay in bed seeing photos with your father/mother even though you have duties to do. It is great to go back and see photos of your mother but try not to allow the pain to prevent doing the objectives you had had in mind for a day. One of the best way to cope with it… it is to keep walking forward.
  • Never never never allow somebody to hurt you with the death of your father/mother. There are bad people everywhere so pay attention and be careful. Also, keep in mind that there are good people too 🙂
  • You will have your ups and downs. It is okay to have them. Generally, every human begins to experience this in a certain period of life.
  • Keep another strategy in mind. A lot of people struggles too. According to an online website called Worldometers, we are in total of 7,7 Billion people worldwide ( 2019).  Perhaps, at least 2 or 3 billion are struggling with emotional issues ( you are not alone ).

Quote: “Our greatest battles take place in our mind.” __ The Mindset Journey